Is the Military Right For You?

Is the military right for you? How do you determine if the military is right for you? There was a lot I needed to learn before I decided to join the military. Before I joined the military the only thing I knew about the military was that there was one. I didn’t know branches, certainly didn’t know ranks, and had a lot to learn. And I thought if I learned the ranks, how to march and when to salute I would be well on my way to a great military the military right for me?


I updated this post with my podcast, Women of the Military. Check out Things I Wish I Would Have Known Before I Joined the Military

The strange thing about the military is that it is more than just marching and saluting. You don’t actually march very often once you finish all your training requirements. And when I think about all the things I thought I knew before I went from ROTC to active duty I realize I didn’t actually know very much.

Is the Military Right For Me?

1. The training environment isn’t like real life

The marching, the being yelled at, the made-up scenarios are great to help you learn how to lead and follow. And are mainly a part of the military because they are efficient. But they are not a part of your normal life once you begin to do your actual job. The military required me to use these tools I learned, but often in an outside-the-box type of way. The training prepares you for your job, but it can never actually be like your job. Real-life is always different than the training environment.

2. You can do this

One thing that would have helped me at the start of my military career was the confidence I could do it. And guess what, you can do it. If you want to do something you may need to work hard. But you can do it. I wasted a lot of time doubting my abilities and thinking I wasn’t worthy. But I completed all my training requirements and became an officer in the United States Air Force. I could do it and I did it. You can too.

3. It will be hard, but it is worth it

The military requires a lot from you. Maybe it will be that you will deploy or maybe your job requires you to work long hours. It doesn’t matter what you will do in the military. There will be something hard about military life. But what you learn about yourself will be worth it. And if you are lucky you will get to work on something that will have a greater purpose and may even change the world.


4. Your friends will become your family

I didn’t realize how important the person sitting next to me would be. I didn’t realize being far away from my immediate family would mean the friends I made would often become lifelong friends. And when I became a mom the friends around me became more than just people I knew, they became part of my family. Looking back I wish I would have invested more of myself in my friends.

5. Your weakness may actually be your strength

I am on the side of quiet and shy because I am an introvert. This also means that instead of jumping right into something I am often watching and learning about what is happening. When I was in training this was a weakness because I wasn’t quick to jump in or speak up, but in the workplace, I was able to observe things and speak up when needed. This ended up being an asset that early on in my career I thought was a weakness.

6. Deployment is hard but good

I was terrified of deploying. I was really afraid of possibly deploying with the Army and having to go on combat missions. It turns out that what I was most afraid of was the deployment I was chosen to go on. And I really didn’t think I could do it, but the military prepared me with training and I had a team of people who went through the experience with me. And it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be.

7. You are going to change when you join the military

Leaving the place where you grew up and meeting people unlike you will cause you to change. Living in a new place gives you a new perspective and you will change. The military will also give you tools and teach you about yourself as it pushes you in ways you never expected. This means that you might not relate to the people you used to know. You will be different and it isn’t a bad thing.  

Does this list help you decide, is the military right for me? If not, check out my free guide to military life to answer all your questions about military life.

I decided to take this post and expand it into a podcast episode for Women of the Military Podcast. You can listen here now!

Is the military right for me? I'm sharing what I wished I would have known about military life. Things you can only really learn from military life, but maybe by sharing my experience I can help others prepare for military life. #militarylife #veteran #military


11 comments on “Is the Military Right For You?

    • I hope it helps. I am working on creating a guide to help those joining the military. What info do you think I need to include?

      • I love your post , I’m trying to apply to OTS, but I do need a waiver , who should I direct this waiver to ? Who do you think, in your opinion would be a better help with this, other than the recruiter?

  1. Thank you for sharing your experience. As a women enlisting I had and still have questions but reading your experience answers some of myself doubts and questions. Thank you so much !

    • Good luck on your journey. You should check out the free guide I created to help women who are joining the military and maybe even my podcast, Women of the Military, so you can learn from more women about what it is like to be in the military.

  2. I’m a single mother to a 9 year old little girl I’ve been looking into joining the Military. Would it be good for my daughter and I a better life?

    • What does your support network look like? To be in the military you will have to be gone for boot camp followed by training for your job to start. If you don’t have someone who can watch your daughter it won’t be possible to join. And then after you complete your initial training you have to have a plan for exercises, training in the field, and be prepared to deploy.
      Episode 46 of the Women of the Military podcast is with a single mom and she talks about the challenges she has faced.

  3. I love how you took your challenges and turned them into triumphs. This is a good message, I’m going to re-post it now. My parents were in the Air Force too, they actually met while enlisted in Alaska and I was born while they were stationed in Denver.

    • Thanks for sharing. I think you can grow the most in the hard times.

      That is so cool that they met in Alaska. Your mom would be a great guest for the Women of the Military podcast!

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