“This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of 1 Natural Way, a TRICARE breast pump provider. All opinions are entirely my own.”
I’m sharing 5 new mom tips from my experience of both a military spouse and veteran. And to start off lets give you a little background about my switch form military to mom, I thought I was giving up my hard life for an easy one. Before I even finished my terminal leave I was beginning to wonder what I had gotten myself into. My son adapted well to breastfeeding, slept pretty well at night, dinners were delivered to my door and I had a few helpers come to visit. I felt like I was on track to make this motherhood thing work.
Then his dad left for training. And was gone for eight really long weeks. My son stopped sleeping for more than an hour or two at a time each night. I was losing my mind, but I had this hope that when my husband returned life would go back to normal.
But when he came home my son didn’t go back to being a good sleeper. And to make matters worse I was officially out of the military and no longer Captain Huffman. But just plain old Amanda. It was a rude awakening. I felt like I was failing at being a mom. The struggle was real.
But guess what, we made it. We survived that first year. I guess it wasn’t super bad because we decided to add another kid to the mix. As I made the switch from military to mom I learned some things and I wanted to pass them on to you. Even if you are not a new mom they might just help you out if you are stuck in a rut.
5 New Mom Tips from a Military Spouse and Veteran
Am I the only one? Or maybe I was just crazy. But for a short time, I thought if I wasn’t spending every moment of my life when I was with my newborn son looking at him and loving him I wasn’t doing my job. Even if he was happily playing on the floor I didn’t think I could do anything, but stay close to him and look at him.
Well you actually can do other things besides stare at your child. And it is even okay if you are doing something for yourself and your kid might be (oh no) crying! When I had my second son there were many times that I had to let him cry to either take care of me or take care of my older son. And you know what, he survived. And those times he was happily playing by himself I would get so much done. You don’t have to feel guilty about taking care of you. It is actually an important way you take care of your kids.
2. Find Balance
Oddly, I feel that motherhood has the ability to engulf your life. So much so that you forget a little bit of who you are. Maybe it is the not sleeping for way longer than any human should go through. Or maybe it is just the flux of hormones and emotions. But you have to remember that you are still a person. You are a mom, but there has to be something more. What else defines you besides your mothership. Find it. Take time to do it. And find that balance between being a mom and being you!
3. Use the Resources You Have
When I was a new mom the only way to get a breast pump was to buy one or maybe borrow a friends. And they are expensive. The laws have changed recently and now you can get a free breast pump from Tricare. And this was a law after my second son was born, but I thought, “Hey, I have a breast pump and I don’t want to waste time on horrible Tricare breast pump system to get a new one.”
But guess what?
It actually is easy to get a free breast pump. 1 Natural Way makes it so easy. They handle contacting both your health insurance provider and your physician on your behalf. Plus, every model they carry is covered by Tricare. This includes the coveted Medela Freestyle and the Spectra S1 Breast Pump, and the Medela Pump in Style Tote/Backpack. No guessing on if Tricare will actually cover it. Signing up is easy and fast. If you are a new mom, even a second-time new mom you should check 1 Natural Way out and get your free breast pump, they also offer breast pump accessories, compression socks and postpartum care supplies.
4. Don’t Give Up
Becoming a mom is so hard sometimes. Things you plan on doing, like breast feeding, being on a schedule or whatever the new fad is don’t always go like we plan. But that doesn’t make you a bad mom. It just means you a human. No one does it perfectly. And you don’t really know what you are getting into until you are in the middle of it. You might need to adapt and improvise, but just keep taking one step in front of the other.
5. You Are Not Alone, So Find Your People
Motherhood can quickly become a lonely place. Some days leaving the house was more than I could even manage. It seemed like so much work. But I have found that being a mom and sharing the hard things brings me closer with my friends. And the friends you have will be so much nicer than the voice in your head. Community is so important to me now that I am a mom. We can’t do it alone. So, get out there and find your people. And if you need some help you can check out my free guide to help you make friends!
What tips would you add? Did you struggle as you made the adjustment of being a mom?