Moving is hard and maybe when you think about moving you think of all the work it is to move all your stuff from point A to point B. And I do think about that, but what is the hardest issues with moving? It has to do with the emotions that go along with moving.
You can get tips and advice on how to move. And you can talk about your feelings. But when it comes down to it, when you move a part of you does not come with you. Friends stay behind or possibly go to a new location that is not your location. And even if you are lucky enough to stay friends it is still different.
One of my close friends had a baby recently and when I saw the news that she had the baby I cried. I was so happy that he was finally here, but also so sad that I would not get to hold him. I wouldn’t get to meet him until who knows when. It was an unexpected emotion and even though we are still close it does not change the fact I cannot be there.
5 Hardest Issues With Moving:
- There is a reason the military has a saying “see you later” and not goodbye. Goodbyes are hard and sound final. And even if your see you later is actually a goodbye it feels better to have hope that one day your paths will cross again. And hopefully they will.
- Having people you can rely on is something that often can only come through time. We have a great neighborhood and I rely on my neighbors for so much, but it took time to build that trust and friendship.
- I also have a great network of girlfriends who support me when things are going bad and I can call in a pinch. When you move to a new place you lose all of that. You start over. It can be really hard, especially when you are trying to unpack and all the things go wrong.
3. Helping Your Kids Transition
- Our next move will be the first one our son remembers or at least understands. When we left Ohio he was just over one. Now he will be 5 and about to start kindergarten. He is pretty extroverted so I’m not too worried about him making new friends, but I know it will be hard to explain and hard for him to say good bye.
4. Finding a New Everything
- Just when you figure out where all the places you like to shop and can get there without a map it seems like it is time to move again. Each part of the country has its own feel. You would think one grocery store is not so different than another, but I guess we all have preferences for a reason. This is very noticeable when you move to a new city.
- As an introvert. Being brave is not part of my story or at least I often wish it wasn’t. But if I wait I may never feel connected. I have learned recently you don’t have to be new to a town to be a new person. Sometimes the fear of reaching out makes you lonely. The worst thing that can happen when you reach out is finding out you may not end up being life long friends. But it is okay. Most people are craving connection.
- When I moved here one of my now close friends saw a tag on my diaper bag from the church we had just started attending. This gave her courage to reach out. I am forever grateful.
What is the hardest part for you when you move? Do you have any secrets on helping me deal with the emotional heartache of leaving a place and people we love? Comment below.