How to Make New Friends and Keep Old Ones

*I received a free copy of Never Unfriended as part of the launch team. All opinions are my own. This post contains affiliate links. Please see my disclosure page for more information.

My never unfriended review

Friends mean a lot more to me than I ever realized. I never realized how important they are and how much work it is to make friends and keep your old friends. Especially since I’m moving around the country every couple of years.

I feel so lucky to be on the Never Unfriended launch team. To be honest I only applied because I have been such a big fan of Lisa Jo Baker for so long that I decided why not. The topic of friendship seemed like something I had covered. But each night as I read a chapter it fits right into my life circumstances or the thoughts from the week. It reminds me I’m not alone and maybe that friend needs me to take the extra step to reach out and connect.

“The cardinal rule of friendship is you have to be willing to go first”
– Lisa Jo Baker Never Unfriended

Make New Friends

The one thing the book is teaching me is that the lies in our head are the same lies we all have. We are afraid of rejection and being hurt and sometimes through trying to protect ourselves we end up rejected and hurt.

This book hits all the hard parts about being a female and being a friend. Ranging from dealing with grief and loss, being the new girl, comparison and being part of the “in” crowd. It was a book of encouragement I didn’t even know I needed and it is helping me grow into a better person and also a better friend. A friend I want to have, the friend I want to be.

“Let’s constantly be on the lookout for ways to guard our friendships.”
– Lisa Jo Baker Never Unfriended

I am realizing that I have long looked at friendship as a 50/50. Being a military spouse means you make new friends and then move on. You show up to a new place and there is a window, an end, an eviction notice of your friendship. And sometimes it is hard to jump in. Maybe even harder for those who have been left behind over and over to let you in.

But somehow you push through the hardness and if you are lucky you make good friends. They help you through that life stage, loneliness, hard times and more. One thing you quickly learn when you take out the layers of protection and get down to the real life the story behind the Facebook pictures and “perfect” life is that you are not alone. And that it doesn’t take forever to make new deep friendships. It just takes the willingness to go deep.

“I am convinced that the shortest distance between strangers and friends is a shared story about our broken places.”
– Lisa Jo Baker Never Unfriended

I could tell you so many stories about my amazing friends. Some of those friends I only talk to on rare occasion others on a daily basis. They each had a special place in my life through the many different changes and seasons. And reading Never Unfriended has helped me realize how important these friendship are and how to make a choice to be a better friend. To dig a little deeper. Be brave to go first.

Never Unfriended will encourage and inspire you to be that friend you have always wanted and have been searching for. You will realize she is there hidden inside of you. And if you are willing to go first you will gain so much more than you could have ever expected.

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3 comments on “How to Make New Friends and Keep Old Ones

  1. This book sounds like a really good offering from Lisa Jo. I have so many books to finish, I don’t know if I could start another one yet. 🙂 But I may just have to get this one.

    I’m so thankful for my friends, including my online ones, like you! 🙂 Blessings to you, dear Amanda!

    • It is really good and such a good reminder that we are all thinking the same thing. I am also thankful for all my friends and I love how many friends I have made through the blogging community. it is truly one of the greatest gifts blogging gives.

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