Home is where the heart is. Or for a military family, it is wherever you are currently. When I think about home I think about where my family is. There are so many things that are hard about military life, but I think moving is one of the hardest parts. But in a way my favorite part as well.
We have lived in New Mexico, Ohio and now California. Each state and city has its own pluses and negatives. In New Mexico, we were in a really small town, but we ended up making really good friends. We bought our first home there and we had a lot of fun adventures. Next, we moved to Ohio and I loved the seasons, but for some reason, I felt lonely and disconnected. A lot of it probably had to do with the change of life stage. Going from working full time to stay at home mom is not very easy. Especially when there is a countdown to when you will be leaving for the next assignment. Either way, I still look back at Ohio with fond memories and good friends I had to say goodbye to as I headed off on a new adventure.
And now we are back in California where I was born and raised. The goal was to be close to family and we are now within reasonable driving distance, but still far away. It is almost like a double edge sword. We are close so we can go to things, but we are still far away so when we do go to see family it takes a lot of work and is less relaxing than if we went and stayed for a few weeks every now and then.
Getting Plugged In
It doesn’t help that we got plugged into a great community here and I have a lot on my plate. Running here, running there. It keeps me busy but makes it hard to leave too. I try not to think about the fact that we already over halfway done with this assignment.
My husband asked me where should we go next and I don’t really care where we go as long as we are together. Which I guess is why I got out of the military. The logistical nightmare of trying to get stationed at the same place at the same time wasn’t worth the headache. Now I have the assurance that when we go somewhere and we will go together.
Time to Move Again
I try not to think too much about leaving because this move won’t be like any of the others. When we moved here our oldest was just over 1 so he didn’t realize what was happening. Now when we move he will be 5 years older and he already has some strong friendships. I don’t know what it will be like to say goodbye. His brother will be 2.5 so I’m guessing it will be hard on him too.
Military life as a mom has already changed things from being one adventure after another. My husband and I both chose this life and our children were born into it. I know that kids are resilient and I think the benefits of seeing the country and meeting new people will be worth it, but it is still not going to be easy.