For 2017, I am doing a weekly series on why the military actually prepares you for motherhood. You probably didn’t realize the military and motherhood intersect. I will use military terms and relate them to motherhood. I will also draw on my past experiences as a military member. Some of the words seem rather odd, like Improvised Explosive Device commonly known as IEDs. IEDs are a feared device by many military members. Especially if your job is running convoys and you know each time you head out the potential to hit one on your way could happen. And although our children’s temperament is not deadly, it can certainly cause harm (at least emotional) during different life situations. Other words like family, learning or training will be easier to relate to even if you don’t have a military background.
Either way, military or civilian, I hope this series will be fun and interesting. Hopefully, I can share some of my insights and provide some encouragement along the way.
Military and Motherhood
Motherhood didn’t look anything like I thought it would. I guess when I think about the military, it also wasn’t exactly what I imagined either. But with the military, I was told to expect it to be new and to find someone to help guide me. I’m not sure why I never got that advice for motherhood. I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t have listened anyway.
I went into motherhood seeing it as an obstacle that needed to be tackled. Everyone made it look easy and fun. I also was pretty certain they were exaggerating on the lack of sleep they were getting. Who can function on no sleep? And still stand upright and do all these crazy things I see moms doing. I now know that lack of sleep is a part of life and you make it work. Somehow you get through these crazy years with little sleep and no clue on what you are doing and if you are doing it well and then when they are older you look back and wonder why it was so hard to take care of a little baby.
These early years with little ones are so hard. But they provide a lot of fun memories along the way. For example this year at Christmas, my oldest actually got the Christmas thing. He actually wanted to see if Santa came when he woke up Christmas morning. When he went into the living room he was so funny because he looked at the tree and didn’t see any new presents and was disappointed. He thought Santa didn’t come. We had him turn around. Then he was so excited to see his stocking full of gifts. His little brother, who is just barely one, had no interest in presents until my sister’s gift for him was open, which was a box of tissue paper that he absolutely loved.
Fun memories that make you smile, but a tired mom and dad from the crazy travel and lack of sleep over the weekend. It is nice to finally be home and getting back to normal.
I’m looking forward to this adventure of looking at how military and motherhood combine. I can’t wait to see what we discover. As we learn how amazing both our military service members are for their countless sacrifices and how amazing moms are as well. Their endless sacrifice often goes unnoticed.