Home for the Holidays – Thanksgiving Throw Downs & Christmas Chaos

Sometimes going home for the holidays feels like more work than would be worth the effort.

Home for the Holidays - sometimes it feels like it isn't worth the effort, but when you think about it, it truly is.

I don’t know why I get so self-centered and think why people have forgotten about me and my family. I quickly focus on things from my perspective and get hurt. In my head, I forget the truth of how much my family loves me and my family. We all are busy people, so they have not forgotten, they are just busy with life. We all have crazy busy lives no matter what stage of life you are in and sometimes we need to stop and remember how blessed we truly are and make the effort to go spend time with family.

Last year, being super pregnant at Thanksgiving (oh and a little hospital stay for Luke) and having a baby less than two weeks before Christmas, we did not have to worry about where we would go or what we would do for Christmas. We stayed put and family came to us. And for Thanksgiving we were lucky enough to have a great group of friends to celebrate with.

This year being so close to home (about 4 hours compared to 20+) we feel a lot of pressure to go home for both Thanksgiving and Christmas. I don’t know if it is actual pressure or pressure we put on ourselves to be there. With two small boys a 4 hour (8 hours if we were crazy enough to do it one day) drive sometimes feels overwhelming.

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Family and Friends Really Miss You

Right about the time I was hoping something would happen so I could just make up an excuse on why we decided to stay home this year. I got three random messages from family telling me how excited they were to see us. And how sad they were not able to come and see us this year. It was a light bulb moment about why we celebrate the holidays and how important it is for us to make the effort to come home for the holidays as often as we can.

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Go Home for the Holidays

For the next two years we will be relatively close to family. Then it will be time to move again. We will go where the Air Force sends us, which is likely across the country and a long plane ride home. It sometimes feels like so much work to make the effort. And maybe you feel like no one cares or even notices, but they do.

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Things Could Go Wrong, but Likely Won’t

I could list a million things that could go wrong with traveling with two little guys, but I guess later this week we will find out how many of those things come true. Hopefully, none. But even if only a handful come true, sometimes my mind spins out of control on things that could go wrong. It has never been as bad as my mind thinks it will be. In my experiences where I did things I didn’t think I could do. I am often surprised by what I can do. Traveling alone…going places alone.

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The Memories are Worth the Effort

If you are going home for the holidays or at any time of the year and feel like no one noticed or cared. Know that isn’t true. Everyone is busy with their lives. Just like you would be if they showed up to visit you at a hectic time of the year. They miss you and love you, but they don’t really know what to do. But that doesn’t mean they don’t care and don’t let it stop you from making the effort. In the end, the memories you make will be worth it.

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4 comments on “Home for the Holidays – Thanksgiving Throw Downs & Christmas Chaos

  1. I have been blessed to live in the same town I grew up in. All of my siblings and my parents live within 30 mins of one another. I am thankful we don’t have to travel for the holidays. Thank you so much for sharing at the Glimpses link up. Thankful to have you! Happy Thanksgiving!

    • Thanks. I think this post is for everyone even if you only have to drive 30 minutes it still might seem like it isn’t worth the effort, but in the end I think time together with family always is. It probably isn’t as easy to explain why you can’t come when your family is so close though…

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