by Lisa Maulhardt
I am a born-and-raised Southern California girl. In fact, I have only lived in 3 houses in my lifetime – all in the same zip code. I married a man whose family roots in California go back to the 1890s. Needless to say, we were content and planned to raise our two boys here.
And then our plans changed almost overnight. My husband works for Toyota Motor Sales USA, whose headquarters are just a few miles from where we live. They have been in the South Bay for over 50 years. Last April, they announced they were moving their facilities to Plano, TX. And all of the jobs were going with them.
We live about a mile from the LA Air Force base, so I have known and been friends with several people who live the military life and are only in one place a few years at a time. I admired them for their ability to start a new life every time they move. But the thought of having to move overwhelmed me. And now we were looking at doing the same thing.
After that first announcement, I was absolutely stunned. How could they do that to the thousands of employees who work here? I know California isn’t great for businesses, so I understand why companies are leaving. But why me? I didn’t sign up for this.
It has been about 17 months since we got that first announcement, and we are still waiting for job details and an idea of when we might move. Best guess for my husband’s group is summer of 2017, so we still have some time here. But, I was still having a hard time wrapping my head around leaving my home, my family, my friends, and starting over somewhere else.
And then I went to MOMCon. I spent 3 days with friends from my Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPS) group and thousands of other MOPS moms from around the world. Other than having a great time and getting away, I came back feeling more confident about this whole situation. In almost every speaker at MomCon, I could almost hear God telling me “I’ve got this. It’s gonna be okay.”
[tweetthis]I could almost hear God telling me “I’ve got this. It’s gonna be okay.” – Lisa M #momcon2015[/tweetthis]
Margaret Feinberg spoke about noticing the goodness in everything, even when it seems horrible or out of control. “Remain suspicious that God is up to something good.” This one statement sums up everything I need to remember over the next couple of years (and possibly the rest of my life!). Moving obviously wasn’t in my plan, but it looks like it is in God’s plan for me and my family. “‘You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done…’” (Gen 50:20a). Margaret also said that “love is absent when fear is present. Fear is absent when love is present.” It is a good reminder that I can’t be afraid of what the next few years may bring to the point where I let my relationship with my husband, kids, parents, or friends suffer because of it.
I even felt at peace about it during the worship time. Singing “Lord I Need You” with Matt Maher had never had more meaning to me. When I got home I bought some of his music and one of the songs, “A Future Not My Own”, says “This is the great unknown, love is a long and narrow road. Come change this heart of stone, I need a future not my own”. Two years ago, this wouldn’t have had the same meaning to me as it does now.
Last year’s MOPS theme was “Be You Bravely”, which was timely for me. I knew I needed to be brave as we started this process. But the theme this year, “A Fierce Flourishing: Notice Goodness, Celebrate Lavishly, Embrace Rest” gives me a checklist on how to stay focused on God. I need to see and remember that God is in control, which is good because I am not. I need to enjoy the time I do have here before we leave and to be excited about what is to come for us after we move. And, I need to relax and stop stressing about it. My favorite Bible verses, especially since I became a mom, are Matthew 6:25-34 when Jesus tells us not to worry about anything. “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own” (Matt 6:34).
Lisa is married and a stay at home mom of 2, background in law enforcement, avid Disney fan and contributing writer to MousePlanet.com‘s parenting panel.
We attended MOMcon together and she is part of my MOPS group here in LA. I asked her to share some of her thoughts from MOMcon to get another perspective when I learned of her talent for writing. I hope you enjoyed her thoughts. I love that we both picked Noticing Goodness as our main take away with such different perspectives.