I quickly learned the lonely days of a military wife before I even left the military. The first time my husband left after our son was born was when he was 8 weeks old and he was gone for 8 weeks. Before my husband left my son had started sleeping long stretches each night. I was starting to find a good rhythm with being a mom and was even planning on starting to work out regularly again.
The first night everything changed
The first night he was gone my son stopped sleeping. He woke up at 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7. I thought it was just a fluke, he had pooped around 6 so I thought their was something in his gut that caused him to be up so much, but the next night proved to be a similar pattern and it continued through the week.
And then for the first time in his life he would wake up and not go back to sleep. At 2 am he would just stare at me. I was so exhausted and stressed. Each day was a challenge to get through and with no one there to help me I counted down the days till his return.
Life changes when you have kids
My husband has had to leave for work a few times since his first long military training and each week we have learned how to get through. I’m starting to get used to adjusting to being on my own. It is nowhere near as fun as when he used to leave and I was left alone. When I was on my own I would squeeze in girls nights and chick flick marathons. Now as a mom I just hope to get enough time to take a nice shower and clean up the tornado that has run through my home.
Military wives do not get the credit they deserve.
Military wives have many lonely days. When it is time for their husband to leave there is no say in if they will go. It doesn’t matter what their life circumstances are. My friend recently found out her husband will deploy shortly after their next child is due. She is taking it in stride, sad, but knowing this is the reality of what they (not just him) signed up for. There are so many stories of how strong and amazing these women are. I hope I can keep the tradition of strong military wife alive. It is hard work, but it is worth the sacrifice.
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