New Friendship: It Takes TIME to Get Settled When You Move

It takes time to get settled when you move. Time to make each new friendship. Time for your house to feel like a home. And it takes time to know you way around town. 

It takes time to get settled when you move. Time to make each new friendship. Time for your house to feel like a home. And it takes time to know you way around town. #makenewfriends #newfriendship #militaryspouse


When I left Ohio I had friends for play dates, hiking and having fun. Now I live in California and luckily have a friend, but wish I had more friends. I know, it just takes time. But that doesn’t change how lonely I feel. How much I wish that I already had friends again. 

Time is required when it comes to moving. Time to unpack all the boxes and more time to get settled. You need time to start new friendships. You need time to create a new routine. And time to find a rhythm to help you get through each day. It just takes time.

All the while, time keeps on ticking by. Just because we moved and everything is new doesn’t mean my baby has stopped growing. I mean, he learned to walk on the trip across the country. He is growing and learning each day. My husband is adjusting to his new job and finding his own way. I’m learning how to live in a new town, a new place, a new home. And summer is nearly over as the holidays are fast approaching and time seems to be flying by. I just sit and wonder how does it all go so fast and slow. 

It takes time to get connected
Creating One New Friendship

I’m looking forward to making new friends and feeling home again. But for the first time since we began our military adventure I’m already dreading our next move and having to do it all over again. Why do you worry about something that is so far away and out of your control? Maybe you think worrying will help you cope with how you are feeling today. You think worrying may help you find a way to protect yourself from feeling this way again. Either way, I’ll never know why worry creeps in and takes up so much of my time. 

Besides the friends you also miss the physical things. A house that was so big and organized. It had plenty of space to hide the unorganized messes. In contrast, our new house is small and quaint, which is great on days I have to clean, but the more I unpack the more I realize I am running out of places to hide things.

In time you will make new friends and know your way around.

And it will go by so fast. The memories you are about to make will make this hard part worth every minute of loneliness. You have to keep reminding this to yourself. Especially as the months and days count down leaving and starting over again. But right now, in this moment, you will focus on the here and now. Stop the worry about what’s next because if you worry your life away you will miss what is happening right in front of you.

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This article was part of Tuesday at Ten.

12 comments on “New Friendship: It Takes TIME to Get Settled When You Move

  1. Enjoy your time with your little one! It goes by far too quickly! Prayers for you as you settle into your new home and for special girlfriends in God to cross your path. Blessings sister <3 ~ Dianna

    • Thanks for the prayers. I remember feeling the same way when we moved to Ohio and when we left we had so many friends. It just takes time!

      • I’m in the middle of your boat. We have two new families and another soon on the way to our small unit. It’s wild how you get into habits without thinking. There is a get together this weekend and I belatedly invited one of the new families because I just wasn’t in the habit of calling them up. One of those, “oh yeah…” moments. Sometimes it takes the ‘old’ folks time to wrap the new ones into the fold.

  2. Hi!! thank you for being a part of my Tuesday at Ten …. I love what you wrote. I know what you are going through. 9 years ago we up and moved from NH to Georgia .. talk about culture shock! my husbands company moved us and I have to say it was the best thing that could have happened. I am so happy.

    You will meet new friends.. that time will come.

    I want to help answer your question: ” I’m dreading our next move and having to do it all over again. Why do I worry about something that is so far away and out of my control? I’ll never know why worry creeps in and takes up so much of my time”

    I think the reason we do that is for self protection. We worry about things in front of us to protect ourselves from the feelings we had. It will be hard to do this all over again, so its normal to have those feelings, just as long as it doesn’t get in the way of life now 🙂

    Your baby is so cute.. thank you for linking up on my Tuesday at Ten .. great story

    Karen

  3. Great post. Something many (probably most) of us have the same feelings through out life even if we don’t move. The various changes in life bring worry. My favorite song at these times is “One Day at a Time”. With that little guy to help you, you’ll make friends quickly. Be Happy.

  4. Awesome post.
    I’ve never moved much, but now that the kids are grown I’ve thought about moving from our huge 10 room Victorian [with rooms that hide the mess!] to something more imaginable and the thought frightens me!
    I loved what you said about worrying … I completely understand that.
    Loved your post and your photos.
    Blessings to you.
    Andrea

    • Thanks. I love how writing brings us all together. You put yourself out there and wonder if anyone else will understand and they always do. 🙂

  5. This is a poetic description of adjustment, waiting, finding your way, and all of the hard but beautiful things about time. You’re doing great 🙂 Before you know it, time will have flown by.

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