It takes time to get settled when you move. Time to make each new friendship. Time for your house to feel like a home. And it takes time to know you way around town.
When I left Ohio I had friends for play dates, hiking and having fun. Now I live in California and luckily have a friend, but wish I had more friends. I know, it just takes time. But that doesn’t change how lonely I feel. How much I wish that I already had friends again.
Time is required when it comes to moving. Time to unpack all the boxes and more time to get settled. You need time to start new friendships. You need time to create a new routine. And time to find a rhythm to help you get through each day. It just takes time.
All the while, time keeps on ticking by. Just because we moved and everything is new doesn’t mean my baby has stopped growing. I mean, he learned to walk on the trip across the country. He is growing and learning each day. My husband is adjusting to his new job and finding his own way. I’m learning how to live in a new town, a new place, a new home. And summer is nearly over as the holidays are fast approaching and time seems to be flying by. I just sit and wonder how does it all go so fast and slow.
I’m looking forward to making new friends and feeling home again. But for the first time since we began our military adventure I’m already dreading our next move and having to do it all over again. Why do you worry about something that is so far away and out of your control? Maybe you think worrying will help you cope with how you are feeling today. You think worrying may help you find a way to protect yourself from feeling this way again. Either way, I’ll never know why worry creeps in and takes up so much of my time.
Besides the friends you also miss the physical things. A house that was so big and organized. It had plenty of space to hide the unorganized messes. In contrast, our new house is small and quaint, which is great on days I have to clean, but the more I unpack the more I realize I am running out of places to hide things.
In time you will make new friends and know your way around.
And it will go by so fast. The memories you are about to make will make this hard part worth every minute of loneliness. You have to keep reminding this to yourself. Especially as the months and days count down leaving and starting over again. But right now, in this moment, you will focus on the here and now. Stop the worry about what’s next because if you worry your life away you will miss what is happening right in front of you.
What is the hardest part of starting a new friendship when you move?
This article was part of Tuesday at Ten.