My first Mother’s Day is fast approaching. It still amazes me that I have been a Mom for almost a year. Do you ever stop and think how quickly time has passed since you became a mom? Is it your first Mother’s Day?
When my son was about 4 month old on a flight home, the passenger sitting next to me said, “the days are long, but the years are short.” You know a little bit about the days being long at that point, but do you really know when someone says the years are short? I mean it hasn’t even been a year yet for me, but my son will be one in less than a month. Looking back, I can still remember counting down the days to his arrival. It feels like it was only yesterday.
What have I learned in my short year of being a Mom?
First off, I learned how hard it is.
In general people portray being a Mom as being amazing. Which it is, but rarely are you let in on the secret of how hard it will be. It is a huge life adjustment and after the initial excitement and meals go away. There you are still living life, a new life that you may not truly be ready for or know what the change means. It is a new life you are stuck with. You can’t ever go back to the way it was before you had kids. Deep down you are happy about that even if you don’t exactly know why.
Change in ways you just can’t understand until your blessing arrives. Even thinking now about how life was and how it is now I can’t put the monumental changes into words. It is more than just not being able to do whatever you want at a moments notice. It something inside you that changes who you are and who you are becoming.
And lastly I learned how much I didn’t know about being a parent.
You can read books. You can get advice from friends. But until you have your child in your arms, you don’t know what kind of parent you will be. I have had a few “ah-ha” moments of understanding. In my reflection of situations, it amazes me how oblivious I was to how much work being a Mom is. The light bulb is on. I now understand.
This ends my reflection on my first Mother’s Day
Before my son was born I had many titles, Airman…Captain…Professional Engineer. Things I was so proud of. People were even impressed with my many accolades. But those accomplishments were just things that I did with a little bit of hard work. I now have been let in on the secret of who the true heroes are. Their name across the world is Mom!
What did you learn in your first year of being a mom?